Episode 16

It’s been a long time since I’ve paced in the shadows of the moonlight. I’ve been having flashbacks and panic attacks for hours now. It all seems so sudden. I was perfectly fine earlier. The only thing that helps when I get like this is to pace and randomly sit wherever I am for brief moments. Then pace again. Over and over the cycle goes until I can breathe again. Until I can feel the fear slip away and feel more of myself returning into my body. Until I can stop seeing myself dying on a bathroom floor.

I watched fireworks this year on Saturday night for the first time since my rupture. This was the first year that the sound of the booms and the flashing lights haven’t curled me up into a ball counting the minutes until the explosions stopped. Seeing the shadows of the flares through my closed eyes reminds me of bright hospital lights overhead as I was being wheeled from the ambulance after my rupture, when my reality transformed my vision.

I have the perfect view of my town’s firework show right from my house. I can sit in the comfort of my house and watch every brightly colored sequence. It’s a sight to behold. So this year, we gathered some snacks and took our seats and watched the show and it was beautiful. There were a few times that I had to close my eyes and do some deep breathing exercises, but overall, I handled it. Unless the panic was delayed, I did great. The next morning, I woke up in a “mood”. Not bad, but not good either. I knew something was off. I just wasn’t feeling good on the Fourth, but couldn’t put my finger on what was wrong. As night fell, my neighbors started setting off small fireworks and I could feel myself getting twitchy. I was watching TV and I was becoming agitated and irritable. I finally just put earplugs in and went to bed. Almost immediately, I started having flashbacks of me laying on the bathroom floor.

My flashbacks devolved into these “what-if” scenarios that my brain started making up. What if I had been at work that Saturday? What if it had happened there? How long would it have taken someone to find me in that bathroom? Would I have died? Would they have known that it was my head without me having had the luxury of screaming “my head” to someone standing next to me? Since the local hospitals missed my brain bleed for nearly 5 weeks, how long would it take for them to figure it out when I came in unconscious?

Insert panicked breathing. 

I began pacing to clear my head. As if the soft fall of my footsteps will chase away the demons that fill my head with images of terror and despair. Ultimately, it’s because I don’t know what else to do. I can’t outrun these visions. I stop and I am always lying on that bathroom floor waiting to be saved. I stop and my brain has concocted another scenario that hasn’t happened, and likely never will, but that I add to the growing list of things that I’m now terrified of. In reality of course, my sister was there to catch me…literally and figuratively; but in these scenarios, I’m always alone. Never sure if someone will find me before I die.

I decided tonight to let the pain be heard. I stopped pacing long enough to write and while I poured over the words, the tears poured out right along with them and I was reminded that it is okay to feel all the things.

I just ask you all to remember that when someone tells you the fireworks are a trigger for their PTSD, don’t scoff because they weren’t in combat. Or a victim of gun violence. There are so many other types of trauma that can be activated by the sound of explosions and the flashing of lights. And not every aneurysm survivor has the same recovery story. Be patient. Be kind.

If you are a survivor…be gentle with yourself. Recovery isn’t easy. Some days are brutal and they sneak up on you. Give yourself some grace. You’ve been through hell.

 

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